September 30, 2010

Couple corner: What do we want to each other?

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I agree with Mami Liz's talk in Couples corner, that living with someone is not easy, there are lots of adjustments. Patience, understanding and compromise is needed so things will work out to for us and that our relationship will remain stronger as time goes by.

When me and my husband new each other way back in 2005, we discuss many things about ourselves and it was a slow process. It's like having autography wherein you seek likes and dislikes of a person, but in a serious and loving manner. Our relationship grew from frienship for 5 months and after that, he courted me and waited for my answer on my birthday. My answer is quite obvious, isn't it? I told him, "I sensed that you're a very serious guy. I bet you're a perfectionist." It's not that I want a perfect guy, I like the way he handle his seriousness. He also didn't asked God to be a rich guy. All he wants is to remain stable in his job as a senior computer programmer and that he will be able to provide his own family's needs.

I was strucked in his first letter he wrote that he has a dry sense of humor. I even told our friend who bridged us, about that. But she just laughed. And she told him about it and that led him to ask his friends as witness about his humor that although there's that dryness, there's still humor from it. They emailed me that he's a funny guy. The poor thing really wants to win. But in our phone and chat conversations, he is serious and sometimes funny. For me, I don't have a problem about that. I don't know if I'm a joker myself, but many people say that I'm a joker and so funny. Ok, when I'm writing, I'm serious. But if I talk face to face, I can be serious and I like to mingle with other people in a funny and courteous manner.

I want my husband to stay the way he is right now. I mean, what he has inside---his humble heart, religious faith, money saver, patriot to his country, kind towards others, responsible and loving husband and father. I want him to love me after God. I want him to be a good father to our little pumpkin. I want him to stay good in his job. I want to be happy till death do us part.

I do have some frustrations. I want to be a good housewife to him and good mother to our children. I want him to know that "He is my HERO". "My knight in shining Armor". I mean, not the glamourous type of super hero or prince, but I do admire his principles in life. I want to support him with all that I am.

One other thing that we discussed today is that we want him to lose weight. We are struggling hard about what to do about it. He gained a lot after we got married. It's probably because of my cooking. But I still want to support and encourage him to lose weight rather than criticizing his actions. I will try not to criticize. Dang, it's so hard that winter is coming soon and hiking or exercising outdoors will soon be closed. I want to be stern and supportive in his aim to lose 30 lbs before he turns 45 years old. I want him to stay healthy and live long time with us, his family.

Rodliz’s Nest


September 28, 2010

The Law of Success Part 21 (QUOTES)

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"EVERY FAILURE, EVERY ADVERSITY, EVERY HEARTACHE MAY BE A BLESSING IN DISGUISE PROVIDING IT SOFTENS THE ANIMAL PORTION OF OUR NATURE."

" I AM THANKFUL FOR THE ADVERSITIES WHICH HAVE CROSSED MY PATHWAY, FOR THEY HAVE TAUGHT ME TOLERANCE, SYMPATHY, SELF-CONTROL, PERSEVERANCE AND SOME OTHER VIRTUES I MIGHT NEVER HAVE KNOWN. "

"FORTUNATE IS THE PERSON WHO HAS LEARNED THAT THE MOST CERTAIN WAY TO "GET" IS TO FIRST "GIVE" THROUGH SOME SORT OF USEFUL SERVICE."

"LOVE AND JUSTICE ARE THE REAL ARBITERS OF ALL DISPUTES. GIVE THEM A CHANCE AND YOU WILL NO LONGER WANT TO DEFEAT A BROTHER SOJOURNER BY THE WAYSIDE OF LIFE."

"EVERYTHING PASSES AT PAR TEMPORARILY: TRUTH ALONE REMAINS PERMANENTLY."

Parent Talk Book Chapter review #1

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"By carefully choosing and using words and phrases that build self-esteem and encourage self-responsibility, you can help your children become more capable, caring human beings." ~ Chick Moorman, Author of Parent Talk Book.

 I am a novice mom of a toddler. I want to learn ahead on how to raise my child (and his future siblings) in a way that our communication is active and rich with good values and results good behavior. I am mindful of what personality will my child learn and grow up to. I want to avoid my negative personalities that may bring him harm or grow up resulting bad behaviors.

The common learning that I observed as a starting mom is that all parents should be "Good" role models to their children. No matter how simple and easy to think and say that, still, it's a challenge to do it. My impatient side do come out, so quickly that I might just shout "No! Don't do that!", "That is wrong!", "You are a bad little boy!". Sometimes, if the misbehavior of my child is too heavy for his age, there comes my "1-2-3 spanking". My MIL observed me and says, "But he is still a baby." I still hold on to my own right, as a parent to teach my child that he will notice what he has done is not good. If he cries, I let him cry. And once he's calm down, I hug him, tell him what's wrong with his actions and sometimes I sing Hail Mary or Salve Regina. There are times that my other me (the Confuser side) says, "Hey! Will your child really learn from his actions that he's too baby to understand what's he doing?"

I know, that is a weird thought. But what I believed in my actions is that I'm doing this for his own good.

I know, for my part, I am not good enough. I am still a beginner in parenting. I know that there's still lacking in my actions. I want to seek and to learn those good parenting skills. I want to apply the ones effective for my child. And so I thought to journal this online, the things I will learn from this book called "Parent Talk: How to Talk to your Children in Language that builds self-esteem and encourages responsibility By: Chick Moorman".

As I was reading the introduction, I learned her technique is different from mine. She use the power of "words, phrases and sentences" as a strategy to parenting. She hopes that this book will help parents and guardians to become more conscious of the words to use---and aware of the power to weild when using words that praise, nurture, and empower as well as words that scold, shame, and criticize. There are 291 pages, and the contents has 11 chapters that will touch about Choices, Response-ability, The search for solutions, Learned Helplessness, Praise, Criticism, and Self-Esteem, Parent talk at its worst, Intimacy, Feelings, Increasing conflict, Reducing conflict, and the Odds and Ends. This really got me interested and so I want to digest slowly each chapter of this book.

September 23, 2010

Quotes for the Day

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" When GOD measures a person He puts the tape around the heart and not the head."
 
" Plan ahead. It was not raining when Noah built the ark."

"The beauty of the House is Order"
"The blessing of the House is Contentment"
"The glory of the House is Hospitality"
"The crown of the House is Godliness"

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September 19, 2010

Biblical Inspiration

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Reflection:

From Luke 9:25-26 - What will it profit a man to gain the whole world and suffer the loss of his own soul?

Yes, indeed, what will it profit us to own mansions and business enterprises, the goods of the earth and all comforts and conveniences of the body, if we do not live up to our faith which tells us that there is still life hereafter?

Let us think of the life in the next, not of material things that will only bring us worry. What counts is the salvation of our soul not the preservation of material things which we cannot bring with us when we die to the life hereafter. Sometimes we are favored with earthly goods but our hearts should be detached from them; let's use them to promote the good of our soul, and let's share them with our needy neighbors. What will they profit us if they keep us away from love of God?

September 15, 2010

Couples Corner: Who's Sensitive?

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"Is it you or your spouse? How does being sensitive affect your relationship? Sometimes, being overly sensitive can ruin a relationship." 
 I think both me and hubby are sensitive kind of a person. But the ones who's sensitive the most is my husband. He get's jealous once there's a guy who's trying to get my attention. He quickly noticed them. Aysus, I will never find anyone else like him. My love, you're the only one for me, the apple of my eyes. :) The only thing that I'm sensitive that will brought us some arguments is about MONEY. Yeah, I don't blame him to be frugal, but me, I want to send money to my family in Philippines. He does share something though, but I make sure to save my money earnings through my blogging on the side, paper route, and doing art crafts first before I tell him on what I'm going to do with my money.
Rodliz’s Nest

Quotes to Ponder #2

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The greatest discovery of my generation is that a
human being can alter his life by altering his
attitudes of mind.  ~ William James
 Everything can be taken from a man or a woman but
one thing; the last of human freedoms is to choose
one’s  attitude in any given set of circumstances,
to choose one’s own way. ~ Viktor Frankl

September 13, 2010

Mommy and Me: To the picnic and To see The Bounty tall ship

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George and I in this picture are preparing ourselves to have family bonding time with Daddy. The three of us had a picnic last Saturday. George these days has been wearing his sandals and shoes when he go outside the house. He's been busy walking and running!

We went to Erie, PA after church yesterday to see tall ships. There was a long line of people going to that classic replica of the Bounty tall ship behind us and we're one of them. George was out after that. It was a long day. Whew! But we are so happy during our bonding times and trips.
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September 10, 2010

Remembering September 11th

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I got  my email subscription from Ruth Seebeck today. She talked about how to value life and see how blessed you are that you're living today while others didn't make it since the first plane hit the World Trade center. Why not take a moment to remember and pray for those poor victims this Saturday? If you see someone in uniform, why not take a moment to thanks them for their service that they offer you protection? Why not thank God for giving you a precious life, living in this world? Let us pray for His divine love and protection over our nations, especially America and to all our loved ones.

September 9, 2010

CC: Trust, Faith and Loyalty

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My trust to my husband is strong. I probably feel relaxed about it because I already met his collegues in his work. And I think there is no potential temptations there like another woman and etc. My faith to him is strong. He's a religious man, I even thought I married a saint. Hahaha, I just run to him whenever I want to know deep things in the bible. He loves his faith, we're the same, and I admire him so much primarily because of that. It's like I'm in heaven! My loyalty to him is strong. I even gave up to work. He said he is still afraid for me to work because I'm young and doctors in the hospital has higher wages than him that they might try to tempt me. Hahaha, I laughed at him, deep inside it hurts, a little bit. As I've said in my previous CC posts, we talk things out even though it hurts. Like best buds, we talked out many things, here and there. We also had some fights. We also had jelous times. And those things are so easy to know, because of the different behaviors that we might show in front to each other. He will say, what's wrong dear and that...I refuse to say first but in the end, I open it up to him. Notice that the word strong in my post is not less or more, it's moderate. We've been married for three years and counting. We are hopeful to make our marriage last long time. I know it's not easy. But I believe that trust, faith and loyalty in marriage should start and ends with LOVE; that's why we married our husband/wife in the first place right? Spark up that love everyday like everyday is the best day. Be your LOVE TEAM.
Rodliz’s Nest

September 1, 2010

Couples Corner: How Do We Help Each Other?

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When I'm down, hubby lift my feelings up. And when he's down, I try my best to lift his feelings up too. I am giving my best to be of service for him, primarily. He's my big baby, the second important person in my life after God. Without him, I will never be complete. By complete means, not material things but the value I have in life, as a woman. He seeks completeness to me too, he needs a helpmate. And that's me. None of us are perfect, but once were together, we feel strong and great love team. Whew! We know for sure that as we seek comfort, affection, faith and hope to each other, it is shown with love, even though it hurts because we have so much to sacrifice. Marriage is a sacrifice. And as for me, I have no regrets that I entered in this life. It is my burden of love.
Rodliz’s Nest