I agree with Mami Liz's talk in Couples corner, that living with someone is not easy, there are lots of adjustments. Patience, understanding and compromise is needed so things will work out to for us and that our relationship will remain stronger as time goes by.
When me and my husband new each other way back in 2005, we discuss many things about ourselves and it was a slow process. It's like having autography wherein you seek likes and dislikes of a person, but in a serious and loving manner. Our relationship grew from frienship for 5 months and after that, he courted me and waited for my answer on my birthday. My answer is quite obvious, isn't it? I told him, "I sensed that you're a very serious guy. I bet you're a perfectionist." It's not that I want a perfect guy, I like the way he handle his seriousness. He also didn't asked God to be a rich guy. All he wants is to remain stable in his job as a senior computer programmer and that he will be able to provide his own family's needs.
I was strucked in his first letter he wrote that he has a dry sense of humor. I even told our friend who bridged us, about that. But she just laughed. And she told him about it and that led him to ask his friends as witness about his humor that although there's that dryness, there's still humor from it. They emailed me that he's a funny guy. The poor thing really wants to win. But in our phone and chat conversations, he is serious and sometimes funny. For me, I don't have a problem about that. I don't know if I'm a joker myself, but many people say that I'm a joker and so funny. Ok, when I'm writing, I'm serious. But if I talk face to face, I can be serious and I like to mingle with other people in a funny and courteous manner.
I want my husband to stay the way he is right now. I mean, what he has inside---his humble heart, religious faith, money saver, patriot to his country, kind towards others, responsible and loving husband and father. I want him to love me after God. I want him to be a good father to our little pumpkin. I want him to stay good in his job. I want to be happy till death do us part.
I do have some frustrations. I want to be a good housewife to him and good mother to our children. I want him to know that "He is my HERO". "My knight in shining Armor". I mean, not the glamourous type of super hero or prince, but I do admire his principles in life. I want to support him with all that I am.
One other thing that we discussed today is that we want him to lose weight. We are struggling hard about what to do about it. He gained a lot after we got married. It's probably because of my cooking. But I still want to support and encourage him to lose weight rather than criticizing his actions. I will try not to criticize. Dang, it's so hard that winter is coming soon and hiking or exercising outdoors will soon be closed. I want to be stern and supportive in his aim to lose 30 lbs before he turns 45 years old. I want him to stay healthy and live long time with us, his family.