August 26, 2010

What do your man wanted you, as a wife, to know about them?

I was reading the last chapter of the "eye-opener" book, "For women only" by Shaunti feldhahn. I got a new learning and inspiration after I read the result of Shaunti's multiple choice survey for men to write the things that was important to them. The top five responses were these:
  • 32% -"I want her to know how much I love her"/There's nothing I can't tell her."
  • 18%-"I wish she'd make more of an effort to take care of herself."
  • 15%-"I need more respect, in private and public."
  • 10%-"I need more sex."
  • 10%-"I need her to understand my burden to provide/how draining my job is."
As a wife, I should not really take for granted what my husband needs. I know, tough times. But, knowing this result made me very much aware of what he really need as well as knowing his love language too. Boy, entering in a married life seemed to be like seeing so many fireworks at the first moment we got married. We thought we got into lots of challenges already after our friends-courtship-engagement life. But, still there are more obstacles and challenges in our stage now that we're married for 3 years. There are still lots of love languages that we are yet to be explored as well as learning and understanding the needs that we wanted for each other so our married life will bloom marvelously. No wonder "Marriage is a school of love."

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