August 30, 2010

Mnemonics: What is Depression and how to alleviate it?

I just stumbled reading again my nursing notes. Since depression is so common to people, here's what I got for it's brief synopses and some interventions on how to lessen it's occurrence:

D - ependency. People who are depressed have low self esteem.
E - ncourage to write. Like writing a blog for example. Lot's of people online are always ready to hear you. It's a  way of expressing concerns.
P - rovide nutrition, hydration, sleep and proper medicine.
R - estructure activities and environment. Join social gatherings or go to a park and enjoy nature.
E - CT (Electro convulsive therapy) in severe cases, done by a medical person.
S - upport system. One has to encourage somebody who is depressed. One can be encouraged in a group activity.
S - uicidal and homicidal tendencies. Check to see if the person has these tendencies.
I - ntrojection is their self defense mechanisms. The person has the tendency of blaming himself.
O - ffer structured activities of daily living. Offer a lay-out for daily activities.
N - ever appear so jolly and happy when attempting to help or giving interventions.

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Quotes for the Day

“I thank God for my handicaps for, through them, I have
found myself, my work, and my God.” ~ Helen Keller

The more you recognize and express gratitude for
the things you have, the more things you will have
to express gratitude for.” ~ Zig Ziglar

August 26, 2010

What do your man wanted you, as a wife, to know about them?

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I was reading the last chapter of the "eye-opener" book, "For women only" by Shaunti feldhahn. I got a new learning and inspiration after I read the result of Shaunti's multiple choice survey for men to write the things that was important to them. The top five responses were these:
  • 32% -"I want her to know how much I love her"/There's nothing I can't tell her."
  • 18%-"I wish she'd make more of an effort to take care of herself."
  • 15%-"I need more respect, in private and public."
  • 10%-"I need more sex."
  • 10%-"I need her to understand my burden to provide/how draining my job is."
As a wife, I should not really take for granted what my husband needs. I know, tough times. But, knowing this result made me very much aware of what he really need as well as knowing his love language too. Boy, entering in a married life seemed to be like seeing so many fireworks at the first moment we got married. We thought we got into lots of challenges already after our friends-courtship-engagement life. But, still there are more obstacles and challenges in our stage now that we're married for 3 years. There are still lots of love languages that we are yet to be explored as well as learning and understanding the needs that we wanted for each other so our married life will bloom marvelously. No wonder "Marriage is a school of love."

August 18, 2010

Couples Corner: When we want something

Hi fellow moms, welcome to my third blog. I was enjoying reading Mommy Liz's host entry today.

When he wanted something, and I don't easily get the hint, he raise it up gently during our conversations. He always want to get my opinion first, like watching movies for example. If I refuse it, he agrees though he really want it, especially if we went to his parent's place to watch it and the time includes going home late at night and it doesn't fall on a Saturday. He is also frugal and wise in spending money.

When I want something, Hubz easily gets the hint. Like for example, I'm really worried of something, then he suggests directly if it's time to buy or get that something done. Like this new laptop I got last Monday, I thought of buying a new one instead of spending money to let other people fix it. I mean, our laptops before are windows xp and even though we already have a high speed internet, it's still slow and his laptop is running on linux right now which I really don't know to operate. As what I've said a while ago, he is frugal into using things, but me, I'm the one who's demanding when it comes to important things like the computer. I just told him that the blogging earnings I got a few months will serve the half the payment of the computer we bought, but he insisted to pay it from our bank savings. Oh well, I didn't want to explain any further to him as long as I told him on what I can do, he has his own plans. When it comes to money, we measure it according to budget and discuss on how to cope up with the expense later on. I gently demand things to him though because I don't want to abuse his gentleness and kindness. Sometimes I feel guilty if I should really talk to him the things that depressed me. But I just tell him those things, and vice versa. We always believe on Honesty is the best policy and helping each other as a team.
Rodliz’s Nest
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Be not the "Prey"

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"The severe truth is, Satan hates your marriage and makes its destruction a nearly daily aim."

I just thought of passing along the wisdom and passages from the book that inspired me today. I read Gary L. Thomas's book "A year of weekly devotions for couples". My heart got strucked and my mind got reminded again of the quote above. I have heard so many married couples these days who have gone separated after having a long married life, mostly, after 10-15 years. Like in this book that I've read, physically; some couples separate because one is flirting with an office mate, viewing pornography, getting so busy that they have little or no time to work on their marriage, and spiritually; refusing to forgive, holding a grudge, neglecting to build spiritual intimacy.

"A married couple's relationship is the inner fortress in a cosmic spiritual battle. This fortress is not limited to just a man and woman; it also protect the children who result from that union. Even more than that, it protects generations of grandchildren and great-granchildren, who will be influenced by their ancestors."
 I felt sorry and depressed about their situation. And so I took time to evaluate my married life with my husband. We are married for 3 and a half years compared to them. Life has been tough. We have been through misunderstandings and arguements. But then, I steal myself to never be anxious about material things, instead, I have to strengthen myself to be vigilant in my prayers to God, that He'll give me the wisdom so I will know what to do especially in nurturing my married life and that it won't lead to destruction like other couples are experiencing. Hearing other people having troubles in their married life alarms me. There are time's that there's nothing I can do for them but to pray for their spiritual strength no matter what happens. 

Reflection: "Flush out all of it today, Ask God to give you a forgiving heart, a loving heart, and a pure heart. Keep moving forward toward your spouse. Ask God to close any doors you have foolishly left open. Guard what God has given you; give Satan no place to enter."

August 9, 2010

Mommy and Me: It's Beach Time!

These pictures were taken last Saturday. We went to one of the sand beaches in Presque Isle peninsula in Lake Erie, PA. It was our second time visiting the place. And at that time, we swim and enjoyed our stay in the beach longer. As you noticed, George seemed to be feeling acquainted with the water in these pictures. The first time we went there, he was just crying and feeling afraid to be near the water.
He is not afraid to hear the loud splashes of water anymore.
Mommy and Son, having good time together in the beach. 
It was a warm hot sunny day, whew! Glad to have that skirt because the Sun is getting wicked to my skin.
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August 6, 2010

Skywatch Friday: Sunset at Presque Isle

My first time to join SkyWatch Friday. I just can't help myself to share this wonderful pictures of the sunset at Presque Isle Beach in Lake Erie, PA. I thought it's romantic!
I love the pastel colored pink and blue of the sky. When the sun set down near the waters, there were some splash of purple color in it. It was fascinating and it made me remembered again of how beautiful God made the world.

August 5, 2010

Digesting Time Management - - - Part 1

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Well, here's another interesting book I've read today, Time management for Catholics by Dave Durand. I just grabbed the book from my Husband's computer desk because I felt the need to have a time management mfor myself. I read Chapters one to three in this book.

How Harried are you?
The author of this book provided nine questions related to the question above. It helped me digest and realize how much of my time is eaten up by unnecessary things. I answered yes to the questions below:

  • Do you find it hard to relax because you keep thinking of everything you have to get done? I don't know, it always pop up in my mind and sometimes I wander away of what I'm doing because I need to do the other thing.
  • Is your desk or work area piled high with papers? Well, not papers but lots of stuff because I'm afraid that my little guy will tear them.
So much so, these are the questions that struck me. There are more questions in the book but none of them struck me so much, like the following:
  • Do you put off important tasks (or even unimportant one) and then have to rush to get them done?
  • Do you accept responsibilities and do things when people ask you, while inwardly groaning about the added drain on your time?
  • Do you often arrive late to Mass, as well as to work and social engagements? Not often because we usually have to wake up early and travel 1 hour and 30 minutes to St. Bernadette's when it's Saegertown Sunday mass and yes, we got late once or twice a month if it's St. Michael's church Sunday for us.
  • Do your daily responsibilities cause you mental and physical fatigue? Well, I always stay at home so my mentally and physically I get moody because I felt like a prisoner in the house but then it will be gone afterward because I can lay myself in our couch or bed to rest or sleep.
  • Do you put off prayer because you're too busy with other things? For me, when I encounter somebody who needs prayers, I pray silently during the moment I am heartily touched so to prevent forgetting about it.
  • Do you turn on the TV and flip channels of habit. Well, we don't have TV but we watch movies together once or twice a week in my FIL's house.
  • Do you stumble across notes telling you to do things - long after the deadline has passed? I don't put notes in sticky notes, I use a notebook.
The author said that if you are say yes of the four questions above, then you need to take stock immediately and begin to manage your time better.

What's really obligatory?
At this chapter of the book, I realized that I should go back to myself in writing my "Thing to do list" everyday in my notebook. It doesn't have to be a diary but short notes and check them when I got to fulfill them in the day.

What is your mission statement in life?
My mission in life is to love and honor God and to worship him all the days of my life. I pray that may He sink down to my soul so that I will have the grace and wisdom to whatever I do and think. In his grace, I will remain committed to my husband and raising my children to love God with all of their hearts.

I find my self-esteem raising after I realized on how to digest my time management. So how about you? Have you got time to digest your time management lately?

August 3, 2010

What can a 14 month old baby do?

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Our little guy in house just turned 14 months old yesterday. We were surprised that he did a few steps on his own, he was walking four steps back and forth towards me and his Daddy. Boy, he sure does stand a lot these days, he can do it for long time while hanging on to furniture. And oh, he has been busy taking down the stuff above the tables and ripping out our wallpapers. How I wish we didn't have a wallpapered house. He even chew on the torned papers and my gosh, I made a sign of the cross for him because I thought he's choking. He can now do a high and low five, clap his hands and responds when his name is called. I've been trying to teach him the ABC's and 123's but he laughed at me when I do it. His Dad laughs at me too. Well? This is how we teach a child, we should go down to his level.